EIGHTH STEP GUIDE
“We made a list of
all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.”
In Step Four, we made a searching
and fearless moral inventory. If we did Step Four thoroughly, one of the by-products
was a list of most or all of the people that we harmed. Although this list may
be incomplete, it will serve as a starting point for us to now use in doing Step Eight.
Having done, and now living,
the preceding seven steps, it should be apparent that we are not only in conflict with ourselves, but also with people and
situations. Since both steps eight and nine are concerned with personal relations,
it behooves us to extract every bit of information about our inner selves and our fundamental difficulties by examining our
The first portion of Step
Eight is making a list of all persons we harmed. What is meant by “harmed”? Simply, it is the result of instincts in collision (the acquired false self and all
its defects and shortcomings) which have caused physical, mental, emotional or spiritual damage to other people. In the process of compiling this list, we backtrack through our lives and make an accurate and unsparing
survey of the human wreckage that we have left in our wake. The time has come
when we ought to redouble our efforts to see how many people we have hurt and in what ways.
As we ponder twisted or broken relationships with other persons, the acquired false self goes on the defensive. Fear, conspiring with false pride, will hinder our making a list of all the people
we harmed. But we must expose this negative impulse by making a deeper and more
honest search of our motives and actions.
The other portion of Step
Eight is that we become willing to make amends to all persons we had harmed. Once
again, willingness on our part is the key word. We are not asking for restitution
at this point, only a willingness to make amends. Willingness has to do with
forgiveness. In being willing to make amends, we are, in effect, asking other
people to forgive us of our trespasses. However, we must first start out by forgiving
the people that we have harmed and those who, we felt , had harmed us.
In summary, we carefully
survey this whole area of human relations. We further discover exactly what personality
traits were acquired that caused us (the acquired false self) to injure and disturb others.
In doing this, we commence to ransack our memory for the people whom we have offended.
We shall want to hold ourselves to the course of admitting the things we have done, meanwhile forgiving the wrongs
done us—real or fancied. Then we become willing, just willing, to make
amends to them all.
The purpose of writing the
eighth step is to compile a list of all the people we had harmed. In doing this,
we deepen our awareness of the acquired personality traits that led to defective relations with other human beings. This awareness should then spur us on to become willing to make amends to all persons that we have harmed.
EIGHTH STEP GUIDE (con’t.)
What is your definition of the word, harmed?
Do you believe that defective relations with other human beings have nearly always been the immediate
cause of your woes? If so, briefly describe a few of these
Make a list of all the people that you have harmed and also those people you believe have harmed you!
Using the list from above, admit the things you have done which caused physical, mental, emotional or
spiritual damage to each person. Write these things beside
each person’s name.
Carefully survey the compiled list of persons and how you have harmed them, and then decide exactly what
character defects of the acquired false self injured and disturbed them. Briefly note beside each person the defects involved.
How are you going to become willing to make these amends?
What is the meaning of Step Eight to you?
How are you going to live Step Eight?
AN ACCURATE AND REALLY EXHAUSTIVE
SURVEY OF YOUR PAST LIFE WILL LEAD TO YOUR EVENTUAL FREEDOM FROM THE BONDAGE OF SELF!